Kiss and make up! It’s one of the most difficult, but rewarding, moments in a marriage. We know imperfections exist and we’ll wound one another. We also know we’re not supposed to go to bed angry. Yet it’s really difficult to take the first step toward making up, admitting our own frailties, opening ourselves up to being possibly wounded again and be the first one to say, “I’m sorry.” But when someone takes that step…oh the joy of making up! What marriages have (or are supposed to) that make this repeated scene possible is the bond of genuine love expressed in an exchange of vows (public or private) and the memory of being, “in love.” Other relationships are different, right? While it’s true that husbands and wives have unique aspects of love-connection, other relationships share an in-love quality as well. Look at how Paul, the New Testament follower of Jesus describes the love Christians are to have for one another: “Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.” Romans 12:10 (NLT). The Bible does teach us to love others sacrificially (doing the right thing whether we’re feeling it or not). But, where fellow followers of Christ are concerned, we are instructed to go beyond this and have affection for one another. I don’t need to dive into a theological explanation of affection here. You know what it’s like to really desire to be around your favorite people. It is an engagement of mind, heart, and actions. But it is not intended to be limited to our “favorites.” It is the aim for all with whom we share the common Lordship of Jesus! It is this one common truth out of which the in-love comes, and to which we are called to return in our “kiss and make up” bond of brother/sisterhood called the Church. No doubt we wound each other. Yes, we have our little clusters of peeps (cliques). But we are one! Reach out to those not in your familiar group. Be patient and persistent when it seems like you’re on the outside. Cultivate the affections we are supposed to have with one another. Then we will be unified and strong!